There's a lot to be said for encouraging children to show leadership. But, let's face it--some kids are just plain bossy. They won't take turns. They won't share. They won't listen to what anyone says.

If you have a child who has appointed himself the Boss of the World, here are some ways to help him learn how to be a team player:

• Make taking turns the way you run your house.
• Use the "Mom Rule." If one child cuts the cake, the other gets to choose the first piece. If one child chooses the game, the other gets the first turn.
• Teach fair ways to decide. Have your kids play "rock, paper, scissors" to see who gets on the computer first. Flip a coin to decide who takes the first bath.
• Reinforce sharing behavior when you see it.

Reprinted with permission from the October 2009 issue of Parents make the difference!® (Elementary School Edition) newsletter. Copyright © 2009 The Parent Institute®, a division of NIS, Inc. Source: Michele Borba, Don't Give Me That Attitude! 24 Rude, Selfish, Insensitive Things Kids Do and How to Stop Them, ISBN: 0-78797-333-5 (Jossey-Bass, www.josseybass.com).